Therapy for Couples & Families In Asheville & Online across NC + CA
Work through what’s coming between you.
Work toward a deeper connection.
Specialized therapy for couples and families can help you feel more present, hopeful, and connected in your relationship.
Communicate with compassion
Understand where each other is coming from so you can approach communication with empathy and curiosity.
Make conflict productive
Feel empowered to de-escalate and manage difficult conversations, engaging in conflict that is ultimately generative and leads to collaborative solutions.
Learn to self-regulate
Learn how to stay present when emotions run high instead of shutting down or exploding, and help your partner to as well.
Connect to a solid sense of self
Feel grounded in your individual identity so you can have a more balanced give-and-take in your relationship.
Set and keep healthy boundaries
Be able to express limits and needs while still feeling connected and supported.
Decide how you want to move forward
Use the insights gained in therapy to discern the future of your relationship more confidently.
My Approach
Helping you put old wounds to rest and embrace new ways of relating.
Our first few sessions are about assessing and understanding what's really going on in your relationship. You’ll each have the chance to share about your goals, concerns, and how you view the relationship and yourselves. It’s also important to see if we’re a good fit to work together, so I’ll also be looking at whether my expertise is best suited to you, as well as how open you both are about what’s happening and where you'd like to go.
During this time, I might meet with each of you individually to help bring out anything that might feel easier to talk about one-on-one, and we’ll explore some of your family dynamics and early experiences to see how they might be playing a role in the connection between you.
If you didn’t believe this relationship was worth working on, you wouldn’t be here.
That’s why, as we begin to dive deeper, we’ll focus on the strengths of your bond—what’s keeping you connected and why it’s worth the effort. At the same time, we’ll identify where you’re getting stuck and unpack those recurring patterns that seem to get in the way of the kind of relationship you truly want. Each of you is ultimately responsible for 100% of your 50% of this partnership, and together, we’ll cultivate moment-to-moment awareness of how you each contribute to those dynamics and notice how they play out in real-time.
From there, we’ll experiment with slowing things down and trying new ways of communicating and connecting. We learn by trial and error, so it’s not about getting things perfect—mistakes are part of the process, and we’ll use curiosity and play to explore different approaches. You’ll have the chance to practice interrupting those old cycles and creating something new, ultimately deciding if what you’re learning works best for your relationship.
FAQs
Frequently asked questions
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Absolutely. Your sexuality and gender identity will always be affirmed here. I understand intimately the systemic impact on LGBTQIA+ individuals and relationships, and will be mindful of this in our work together.
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Yes! Whatever the structure of your relationship—whether it’s a polyamorous relationship between multiple individuals, an open relationship with one primary partner, or something else—my approach is specific and affirming of who you are. I am LGBTQIA+ and kink-affirming and have experience working with relationships of all kinds. To find out if we’re a good fit, reach out here for a free consultation.
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I provide therapy for a variety of non-romantic relationships, including parents and adult children, siblings, best friends, business partners or co-founders, and collaborators of all kinds. If you’re unsure whether the relationship you’d like to work on is a good fit for this type of therapy, reach out here for a free consultation.
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The number of sessions depends on what you're hoping to work on and how things unfold for you. If you’re coming in for discernment therapy or finding a loving way to say goodbye, then our work may include only a handful of sessions. However, for folks working to transform complex issues, it may take 6-12 months or more to address the underlying root causes of your presenting concerns. We’ll check in regularly to make sure we are progressing toward your goals.
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Absolutely. Focusing on your own growth and understanding can lead to meaningful changes in your relationship and your life, even if your partner isn't directly involved. With that said, we’ll regularly explore together the benefits as well as limits of taking an individual versus systemic approach to addressing your presenting concerns.
